Do you ever play the average girl tune in your head? Do you ever tell yourself that there’s no place for you in the entrepreneurial world? That you have to look like a million bucks to be an influencer? Or that you are a terrible writer and nobody will read your book or blog so why even bother?
Whether you call them by their fancy names — mental blocks, limiting beliefs, faulty mindsets — or simply put, dangerous, hurtful lies, this kind of reality distortions can easily crush your dreams. Over and over again.
Most of the time you might not even hear them, because they’ve somehow become background noise from so much playing on repeat.
And this has to change.
So what if you’re no Cinderella?
That story has already been told and the world is eager to hear a NEW story. You’ll turn out just fine.
But it’s impossible to go somewhere new, to become something new, when you have so much dead weight holding you back.
To start with, any meaningful progress towards your goals requires you to acknowledge and then systematically destroy each lie you’ve been telling yourself.
You are the only one who can do it. Nobody else can do it for you.
So here you go… take the helm. You are the master of your fate.
Lie #1: I don’t have what it takes to be an entrepreneur
Is that pesky little voice inside your head telling you that you are not good / worthy / talented / smart / skinny / beautiful / young / strong / qualified / educated enough? Stop listening to it. Because every time you listen to it, you are feeding it and it only grows stronger. So stop giving it power over your life.
You might not have what it takes… YET. But you are capable of learning and bettering yourself. Stop comparing your beginning to somebody else’s middle. Stop comparing your beginning even to your OWN middle.
It’s so easy to get stuck here and play this tune in your head over and over again, because… how on earth are you supposed to KNOW you can do something if you’ve never done it before, right?
But you HAVE to believe in yourself. You have to trust the journey. You cannot give up on your dreams and live the rest of your life like a chipped version of yourself constantly feeling like something is missing. You are worthy of good things. Don’t give up on who you could be.
Lie #2: I need to have it ALL figured out before I start
No, you don’t! Nobody has it ALL figured out before they start.
You cannot PLAN for success. Sure, it helps to have a sense of direction, to know what your first product will look like, what you’ll blog about, but success doesn’t sprout from inflexibility.
You have to adapt as you go, listen to your audience, customers, clients.
You cannot draft a whole business plan on day one and follow it blindly until the end of time. There will always be a plan B, and plan C… all the way to plan Z. Your definition of success will change over time and you’ll have to adjust as you go.
Once you set things in motion, you will cause a chain reaction. Not everything will be under your control. And you will have to learn to relax and just let things take their course. You are at the helm, but you cannot order the waves to do your bidding.
Lie #3: I’ll do it when I have more time / money / know-how
Wait a minute. So you want to put off your dreams because someday seems more within reach than today? Do you even hear how absurd that sounds? The stars will never align just right if you just sit there and do nothing.
I started this blog with a little over $100 and made that money back in the first month. Opening an Etsy shop is free. Offering your freelance services doesn’t cost you anything. Creating an Instagram account takes minutes and you only need your phone to get started.
Even if you don’t know how to do it all, somebody does.
Open your browser and type in your question. Ask a friend or pop into a Facebook group or forum and pick someone else’s brain. You don’t have to do this alone. Start where you are. Everything else is
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Lie #4: Others are already well ahead of me, there’s no point in even trying
If Steve Jobs had believed that Nokia was already offering the best mobile phone possible at the time, the iPhone might have never been invented.
Although hundreds of millions of books have been published so far, you don’t see the publishing industry coming to a halt because there are enough books already. Plus debut novels hit the bestseller lists all the time.
Emilie Ristevski (@helloemilie) has over a million followers on Instagram, but it doesn’t mean her followers don’t want diversity in their feed.
You can’t give up on your dream just because someone else was there before you.
If your dream is important to you, if you can’t go a day without thinking about it, stop finding excuses and start looking for a way to make it a reality instead.
Lie #5: I’ve already tried that
Big dreams take a long time to come true. They also require experience. And consistency. You can’t become anything overnight. No one became “Oprah in a day.” Not even Oprah.
It’s quite a relief that you don’t have to do it all today, this month or even this year, don’t you think?
When you keep showing up for your dreams, your dreams will start showing up for you.
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You cannot show up once and pretend like you’ve given it your best shot. Lots of people show up once. Lots of people are willing to try. But that’s just the beginning.
The more you do it, the easier it gets. You are forming new habits, you are learning, and you get one step closer to your goals and the person you want to be every single time.
About the author:
Hey there, dream chaser! I’m a writer and designer on a mission to inspire and empower you to create a highly profitable minimalist online business and show up for your dreams in a sustainable way.